more love. less judging.

i find myself sitting her tonight. guilty. guilty of judging others and not loving enough. it is hard. because as women, it just seems to happen... like the filter from our brain to our mouth is turned off 90 percent of the time when it comes to judging others. we know that it is wrong. and that it hurts. and i feel bad right after i do it. and i have to constantly remind myself that i have not walked a day in that woman's shoes. i have no idea why she is upset. or why she is raising her voice at her kiddos or her hubby. or why she looks tired and a hot mess. you just don't know. so then i have to ask myself... then why do we do it?  if we don't want others to judge us, then why do we judge others? because we are human. and imperfect. and flawed. we like to people watch. and gawk. and make off the wall comments and think up stories in our head about how their life is so perfect or how much better we have it then someone else. it is not right. it is pathetic.

instead of judging we should be loving. we should be looking at other ladies with the eyes of Jesus. loving them like He does. praying for them when they look like a hot mess instead of tearing them down with our thoughts. we were put here on earth to do life together. not alone. and the more we judge, the more alone we are going to be. so we need to love. and love real and love big. and make it count. because you never know what that smile or helpful hand can do for someone. it may just make their day. in a big way.

so go against the grain. start each day anew. and remember... you are not her. you don't know where she has been, what her day has been like, or what lies in front of her. so instead... just love her. love her right where she is at, just like Jesus loves you.

trust me... when you start trying to really make this change (which i have been trying to do). you will see a difference. and you will start viewing women in a new light. and it will be a beautiful thing. because we shouldn't be against one another we should be for one another. just think about it. and like my momma always said - "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." instead- just love. because we need more love in this world more than anything else.

1 Peter 4:8 "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins."